tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5376826124218676328.post1617710778086948020..comments2023-09-03T18:49:00.990+05:30Comments on Kaleidoscope: Learning to be alone.Anirbithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00257290158956552196noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5376826124218676328.post-42384965912273106742017-01-14T16:27:04.330+05:302017-01-14T16:27:04.330+05:30you are an asshole,who have no idea what is like d...you are an asshole,who have no idea what is like do theoretical physics......... idiots like you please stay away from academia,and do some stupid job.....lubos motlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08736502916584851880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5376826124218676328.post-37461547881130276312007-06-20T12:47:00.000+05:302007-06-20T12:47:00.000+05:30Comment continued:Regarding movie-watching.It's st...Comment continued:<BR/><BR/>Regarding movie-watching.<BR/><BR/>It's strange that you should use the number of movies you have watched with others as a measure of your social success. For instance, I've watched only two movies in theatres in the last three years, one being the Harry Potter release and the other being a movie in Paris. Both of them were with lots of people and none of them were with "a person I'd like to go to a movie with". I've also watched a lot of movies alone, on the machine. Frankly, I don't think what movies you watch or who you watch a movie with is at all an indicator of your friend-circuit.<BR/><BR/>Regarding old school acquaintances.<BR/><BR/>Most of us <EM>do</EM> fall out of touch with old school friends and childhood acquaintances, and though the Internet and mobile phones may delay this <EM>death</EM> it is rather inevitable in the long run, unles both you and the other party have some particular reasons for retaining the friendship. This is again nothing unusual or specific to you; it's a general phenomenon that you probably will get to see in all the people around you.<BR/><BR/>(Typically the length of time you are able to retain a friendship also depends (partially) upon its depth, and most childhood/school friendships lack in depth, though there are some that live on).<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, trying to artificially maintain a friendship that has died down, or trying to force people into demonstrating that they are friends of yours, or making it a point to feel bad or inadequate if people have forgotten you, can only lead you to unhappiness.<BR/><BR/>It's like going to somebody who's fairly neutral to you and saying "You either love me or hate me", thus forcing that person to <EM>reject</EM> you (you = generic you).<BR/><BR/><BR/>Anyway, these are my personal views and don't let them get in the way of your enjoyment/depression.<BR/><BR/>More later.Vipul Naikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11194992577238689768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5376826124218676328.post-4672165492886514412007-06-20T12:33:00.000+05:302007-06-20T12:33:00.000+05:30Hi Anirbit,A rather long comment.Quoting you:Okay....Hi Anirbit,<BR/><BR/>A rather long comment.<BR/><BR/>Quoting you:<BR/><BR/><EM>Okay. I have no answer to this. I just was perhaps under some wrong impressios that people would want to spend time with me. Okay. Sorry. I was wrong. My fault. I am useless. I accept.</EM><BR/><BR/>And further on:<BR/><BR/><EM>I define a friend to be a person who would "want" to spend time talking with me at any time of the day and with whom I can talk about anything and everything under the sun wthout either fear or restrain and that person will reciprocate.</EM><BR/><BR/>I do think you have the wrong impression here. Firstly, if you don't have any friend with whom you can talk unrestrainedly about anything and everything under the sun, then that's nothing unusual about you -- most of us don't. In fact, there are likely to be lots of things that you yourself don't want to talk about, and there may be lots of things that the other person doesn't want to talk about.<BR/><BR/>In fact, most of the friendships developed over a short period of time <EM>are</EM> likely to be shallow, superficial and restricted. To reach a degree of friendship where yo ucan genuinely talk about a lot of things requires a great deal of time and patience, and even then, it's unlikely you will be able to (or want to) talk about anything under the sun.<BR/><BR/>This does not in itself lead to your conclusion: <EM>My fault. I am useless. I accept it.</EM> I am not arguing the fact that you are useless (I'm sure you have reasons for reaching such a conclusion but the fact that you can't discuss anything under the sun with anybody doesn't qualify as one.<BR/><BR/>Rest of the comment will follow soon.Vipul Naikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11194992577238689768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5376826124218676328.post-57581269863889563612007-06-18T15:45:00.000+05:302007-06-18T15:45:00.000+05:30I have the cure.AlcoholI have the cure.<BR/>AlcoholAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01764879091809524449noreply@blogger.com